[HWPL Peace Education Textbook 6 Being Considerate of the Benefit of Others]
[6-2] Applying and
Practicing Consideration
◆Learning Objectives
1. Understand the concept and necessity of
consideration.
2. Learn the benefits of consideration
through examples.
3. Discover ways to practice consideration to
achieve community peace.
◆Practicing
Consideration
In a world dominated by materialism and
selfishness, restoring the value of consideration is challenging. Instead of
expecting consideration from others, we should first practice it ourselves. If
everyone in a community learns and practices consideration, we can create a
peaceful and beautiful society.
Think from Others' Perspectives
Consideration includes tolerance,
understanding, and putting yourself in others' shoes. Being lenient with
yourself while strict with others is self-centered. Consideration starts with
the effort to understand others' perspectives. Expanding your awareness beyond
your own situation to consider others involves asking questions like,
"What state is the other person in?" "How would I feel in that
situation?" "What might be difficult for them?"
Understanding others' positions, especially
when we haven't experienced the same situations, can be difficult. True
consideration involves interpreting others' goals and motivations. To practice
consideration effectively, we need to listen to others fully and strive to
empathize with them.Image from Pixabay
Listen and Empathize
Psychologists say that empathy can bond
people and create strong social commitment. Empathy is increasingly valued
socially as it helps us understand and consider those around us. Without
empathy, cooperation and help are unimaginable since cooperation and trust are
based on empathy.
To develop empathy, focus on listening to
others and understanding what they want, rather than analyzing or criticizing.
Here are two ways to practice focused listening:
1. Observe and Reflect: Observe others' words
and actions without judgment. Clearly and specifically describe what you see
without evaluating whether you like it.
2. Express Feelings and Discover Emotions:
Share how you feel when you hear others’ stories—sad, scared, happy, annoyed.
Also, express what you think the other person feels and thinks. This process
helps expand your understanding of their needs and positions.
Practicing these methods helps develop deep
listening, respect, and empathy. Regular practice can lead to more sincere
consideration in relationships.
Image from Pixabay |
Focus on One Person at a Time
When considering others, always assume
one-on-one interactions. Ethics defines consideration as a deeper and more
specific moral feeling than benevolence or compassion. It involves engaging
comprehensively with a specific person and their situation. Stanford University
Professor Nel Noddings says that forming a "you and me" relationship
is essential for true consideration, emphasizing personal and respectful
interactions.
Even when aiming to consider a group, actual consideration must focus on each individual, thinking about the impacts on them personally. This approach applies even in negotiations with groups, where understanding each person's receptivity and psychological acceptance is crucial. Remember, consideration is about attention and care for the individual in front of you.
◆Reflection
1. How did you feel when judged by others?
How did you feel when understood and empathized with by others?
2. Discuss the relationship between consideration and peace.
◆ Exploring Consideration
Choose a friend and practice the following
three steps:
1. Listen to their story without judgment.
2. Express your feelings and empathize with
their emotions.
3. Show your understanding of their needs and positions.
Reflect on how your relationship changes and
what you learn from this process, then share your experience.
<Chapter 6 Conclusion: Being
Considerate of the Benefit of Others>
Consideration involves caring for others, an
act grounded in love. Everyone receives love from parents or others from birth,
shaping their personality. Those who receive a lot of love tend to love
themselves more and can mature by sharing that love and practicing
consideration towards others.
A self-centered attitude promotes selfishness
in society. Therefore, by learning and practicing consideration for others'
benefit, we can qualify as citizens of peace. Creating a peaceful life involves
sharing love, resolving conflicts with an open heart, and building a society
where more people can live happily. This vision is a common dream for humanity.
As the saying goes, “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream
together is reality.” Our efforts to achieve this dream can be realized through
practicing consideration.
Practicing consideration starts with
understanding, empathy, and one-on-one interactions. By focusing on these
principles, we can build a more peaceful and connected society. Let's all
strive to be the change we want to see in the world.
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